Dear Anita,

 it takes way more time to be at ease with a new, learned behavior than it is to perform that new behavior.

I have been noticing this, and you pinpointed it perfectly.  Sometimes I will fool myself, or take the ‘new behavior” as natural in my head.  But sooner than later, I will find that being at ease – is not ease-y.  It is the natural way that wants to dominate, the old neuropathways.  I notice how much deliberate effort it takes to go with the new learned behavior sometimes – not always.  And sometimes, that effort and energy that is exerted to choose the new behavior, can be mistaken as “wrong.” As in, “wow if it is this difficult to choose this choice, than how can it be the right choice?” It doesn’t feel like the ‘right” choice because it takes effort and isn’t “innate.”

I know we have all asked ourselves this question, what is an example you have? I will think of one too…