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  • March 23, 2019 at 8:00 am #285889
    Anonymous
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    Hi,

    When dealing with low self-esteem and confidence, loving yourself is said to be the way to move forward.

    How does one go about it? I see accepting yourself as a common theme. Does that mean you accept all the flaws that make you feel less than? Would that not mean excusing bad behaviours and letting yourself go. If not, how do you ascertain which should be accepted?

     

    March 23, 2019 at 11:08 am #285941
    Mark
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    gj,

    Great question for I hear/read about this all the time and I wonder what does that mean in practical terms.

    This is a challenge for those who have not experienced what genuine love is especially while growing up.  Unless it has been modeled for you then how can you learn what love is?

    One rule-of-thumb can be is to how you want others to love you is how you can practice for yourself.  See below for areas for love.

    • Acceptance and positivity
    • Support and appreciation
    • Nurture and kindness
    • Empathy and compassion
    • A deep soul connection beyond the body and mind

    I think that is a good start.

    Thanks for asking.  I got to research this for myself.

    Mark

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 1 month ago by Mark.
    March 23, 2019 at 8:39 pm #285993
    Anonymous
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    Hi Mark,

    I love the list 🙂

    The only thing that confuses me is Acceptance!

    I don’t get it. The more I think about it the more it confuses me. If I accept myself, will i ever improve myself? Then i guess the question is do i need to improve myself? If I don’t then why am I miserable – that must mean something needs to change. Will I really change if I accept everything? And how do you know what to change and what to accept.

    gj

    March 23, 2019 at 9:30 pm #286001
    Mark
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    gj

    My interpretation is that we are perfect the way we are AND we want to continue to evolve.

    There are skills and experiences we still want to add to our life.

    There are behaviors, attitudes and perceptions we would want to change as well in order to live a more enjoyable and compassionate life.

    Make sense?

    Mark

    March 23, 2019 at 10:54 pm #286005
    Anonymous
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    Hi Mark,

    So it means that whatever see ourselves as, is just the way we need to be now? We can change but change while accepting what has been or what we are? We are good enough the way we are but could do better by improving?

    I guess it could mean being at peace with who you are in this moment even as you try to change behaviours and perspective as you said.

    I was of the opinion that once you accept something you have to be okay with the way it is forever. So i was worried that it could be used as an excuse to never change for the better. But my understanding now is I should be able to accept myself for who I am in this moment and still be able to look for things to change. Which would then mean that my self-esteem will not depend on a future event. Do you think i got it right?

    gj

    March 24, 2019 at 1:07 am #286013
    Mark
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    Ideally with loving ourselves then self esteem cones built in.
    We can just be ourselves and be ok with that? That frees us to do and be more.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 1 month ago by Mark.
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