Hi J,

I think we as a society are so “touch starved” and lack close relationships (lovers, friendships, family, etc.) that we will take ANYTHING.

One (possible???) way to keep this guy (if you’d even want to???) is to get him used to seeing you WITHOUT having sex. Maybe every other hookup something happens: you have a headache (so he has to take care of you), your friend has a crisis (so he gets to help be a hero in your world), you get drunk and fall asleep with your clothes on.

Meanwhile, convince yourself that you are, in fact, a catch. Go out on a lot of dates. Let this guy know you are dating other people but HE (lucky dog!) is the only one you are currently sleeping with! (Maybe he’ll get competitive when he sees flowers from another guy in your kitchen, etc.)

Get your hair and nails done. Get a massage. Play with the kittens at the animal shelter. This is so your body is not as touch starved.

Finally, visit your girlfriends and relatives THAT MATTER. Even if they live hundreds of miles away, visit them for that connection of Being Known.

Good Luck!

Inky