Dear Anita,

 It takes time to realize most other people are not crazy like your mother

hmm.. very interesting – I see how I am “overly” triggered by these women now, perhaps more than I would have been prior, given that I see these mother qualities in them.

I think I spend a lot of time thinking about how people are not what they seem, and since they are all so self-oriented and inner circle oriented, why shouldn’t I be? This sentiment sounds a lot like my mother – this resentment on her end that others were selfish and she wasn’t.

Knowing what we know now, that in fact my mother was the selfish one! And she fed me lies.

the chronic alertness has been helped by days like that Central park evening with my husband, that nice evening I detailed out to you.

It is nice, Anita, to know that there is relief from the chronic alertness.  That there is help for it.

This does not mean it changes the pattern quickly, no that will take time.  But to know at least something can help – that is quite reassuring.