Dear Cali Chica:

“the frustration arises- of not keeping the calm (when you know better)”- the know better you are referring to is an intellectual/ rational/ academic-like knowing. This is a different kind of knowing than the knowing required in this step of the process, or journey. The intellectual knowing is easy, a walk  in the park, compared to the knowing that is required now.

The woman in the “snazzy wonder woman costume” changes into a “slim nude colored dress: clean lines, simple silhouette and natural”- the elegant dress  is like intellectual knowledge, easy to put it on. You put it on, look in the mirror and say: I look elegant! You feel elated. Then you go into the world and the day wears off, you get tired, a person bumps into you and spills a bit of coffee on your dress (people who annoy you), and you don’t feel elegant anymore. Soon enough you are a snazzy wonder woman inside an elegant dress.

The knowing required now is the (for a while) excruciating moment by moment by moment acting elegant, acting calm, according to your intellectual knowledge. The acting itself, moment by moment, hour by hour, all day is the knowledge I am talking about.

True elegance is in that Calm we’ve been talking about, calm inside that dress all day long, even if it is a bit wrinkled and has a spot of coffee, still your head is held high, posture good, calm facial features, calm, confident voice, elegant mannerism all through the day.

anita