Dear Angelgirl:

Let size 12 mean just that, a size 12. A size 12 does not mean a lesser woman. It means nothing other than a size 12. A clothing size, a skin tone, being lighter or darker, that has nothing to do  with your worth as a woman or a person.

Let’s say a man who will not date a woman who is bigger than size 2. Fair enough, that’s his choice. But for a man to have sex with a size 12 woman in her home (so no dating/ no being seen with her in public) while he keeps looking for a size 2 woman to date in public- that is not fair, that is indecent behavior.

So, you are size 12 and have darker skin. First, darker skin is not inferior to lighter skin. I know many consider this to be so, but it is not true. Second, exercising and losing weight in the new year is a good idea because lighter weight is likely to be better for your health, and exercise will help with your depression.

But regardless of your weight, carry your body  with a sort of pride, as if you are special; valuable. Smile as if you know that you are special. There is something very attractive about a woman who carries herself with this kind of knowing. Try it and you will see what difference it makes.

anita