Dear Anita,

Thank you for “keeping her busy” by communicating with her while I was in CA.  I never formally gave you that appreciation, sorry for that.

I wanted to say something about that – no matter how much you supported her and spoke to her and talked to her during this time – she still managed to take my time and energy.  Isn’t that something?  It reminds me of my childhood.  My father or I would spend countless time calming my mother down or this or that, and then bam when a new person arrived in the home, say my sister, an aunt, anyone – it would start all over – all of our efforts in vain.

Dear Anita  – I hope nothing I said about her talking so much to you was offensive to you.  I by no means feel the way you approached it was wrong.  I was just point out her extreme behaviors, and patterns of it.  That she is all or nothing.  I recall her talking to a new boy once, for hours and hours – not uncommon for 20s – and then telling him the deepest darkest things about our family — and then getting annoyed when he didn’t get things.

Her expectations of people have always been for them to “just get her.”

Some people like yourself truly try very hard to get her, and help her – but it can be a difficult task.

I apologize once again if anything I said was offensive.  I truly appreciate what you did to help her – and I know that when she had just gone NC she was so grateful to have you as support and a backbone.  You are an especially kind person for giving that to her.