Anita,

I found a condo Saturday and bought it.  Doing all the fun paperwork and getting everything set up.  Making a “To Do List”  Closing date is March 10th so I will move in after that.  I feel a bit lost at sea.  I need your guidance.

Saturday night I was falling asleep and got a text from my ex husband saying he had met someone 2 months ago and this woman had come over and met the kids that evening.   Instead of saying something to me beforehand, I get this text.  I told him I was not happy with how he handled the situation on Sunday when I went to pick up the kids.   He failed to keep his pick up time and I dropped the kids off at the restaurant he and his girlfriend were at.  I had somewhere to be at 3:15 and we had agreed I would drop the children off at his house at 3pm.  It was a very awkward meeting and now I wish I had just kept them at home until he got home from his date.

It has been up and down for me since trying to process this information.  I feel that it is inappropriate for him to have the children meet someone so soon.  I would never have my kids meet someone unless I was in a very serious relationship.  I don’t even want to date right now! I feel what he has done is selfish…maybe on purpose?  We have been arguing.  I’m hearing the classic “I’m a changed person now Lindsey.  I’ve meet someone that doesn’t treat me like garbage. I’ve worked out my issues.”

This woman seems like a nice person but who knows someone after 2 months? She is divorced with a 9 year old son.  They were introduced by friends at work.

I just feel protective of myself.  I don’t want to be around people.  What exactly is he discussing with her about me and my private things?   I had a feeling this would happen, him meeting someone quickly and getting into a relationship/possibly married again very quickly.  But he is abusive Anita and I have to sit back and just watch things unfold.  What if they start arguing a bunch in front of the kids?  I worry for my children.  I don’t want them around someone I don’t know.  The girlfriend will become his primary focus.

Lindsey