Dear Gaia:

I typed away the above spontaneously, without editing (my thinking developed while I was typing), so I don’t want to interrupt that. I will add it here then: I am making a distinction between a child growing randomly and a child growing up. To grow randomly is to mature physically but remain sick emotionally/ mentally. A child can grow up in a supportive home and become a healthy adult. A 21 year old newborn (one growing randomly in an unsupportive home with a crazy mother) can still grow up, that is, heal, become more and more healthy.

anita