Dear gamer:

“When do you thing would be an okay time to  tell him all  of this?”- you can tell him anything anytime (after his birthday), just don’t put pressure on him. And don’t expect anything from him.

“With what he has going on in his life, his personal problems and then me, I do not know if he will be able to  give me that effort, love, appreciation and communication that I ask for”- good thinking on your part.

Basically, he is in trouble and he is not in the mental position to give you what you need. I know that when I lived  with my mother, I was definitely in no position to have a healthy relationship with anyone!

Understanding that he is truly not able to give you what you need, you will still be sad, but not angry, and slowly you will accept this reality and be less and less sad. Maybe you can start (maybe) thinking of him not as a boyfriend, but as a friend only.

anita