Hello Heather,

That is just such a great question – how do you stop reacting to his actions? Having been on the receiving end of abusive behavior, I sought the answer on a spiritual journey inside myself. When you start focusing on yourself, your own behavior, you realise that the only person you can change is you. I have discovered that most people come from fear not love and in coming from love, for yourself and for your ex-husband you change the way you feel. Forgiveness and perceiving other people’s words and behaviors differently, allows you to feel differently, to feel good. When I let go of the anger and offered forgiveness from a loving place inside myself, no-one else’s words or behaviors had the power to affect the way I felt.

Love and peace,

Marilyn