Hi I just started getting into a relationship with this guy that I liked for what I saw in him. When I first met him he told me he was 25 but later on after some things happened he decides to tell me he is really(at that time) 28. The reason for his lie was his fear of running me away because he really liked me and saw I stand out from the casual crowd of people. So I get his whole story of the kind of person he is(angry, insecure, looking for love, sad,) I begin to piece things together. Though I felt another something about him that had me cautious I decided to proceed with this further to see how this would go. So a time came where I kept in contact with him and help him along the way until we met again through mail. Now the time has come and we are together but like they always say you don’t really know a person until you are alone with them or they get comfortable. Well so far I helped him get a few things like (for example) supplies for up coming events and other things he wouldn’t ask for but I just volunteer the help. I even let him take my car to run some errands and figure it would be ok since I built that trust with him. So far these couple of months I think I have been to free handed since I notice now instead of asking he simply states he is going to do this and that then leaves with my car. Not only that but the time it takes is crazy! I mean he will be gone all (excuse the language please) damn day and wont return until that following night or day. I told him and he seems to always have an excuse. He says he is getting better but his getting better is not enough since his timing skills are poor. He has and anger problem as well. He gets fiery mad at the simplest of things like “why did you move that”? or “I told you to do this!” And now I even think he thinks that my car is his and doesn’t feel the need to ask to go anywhere. Now I’m no fool but still the little things he do for me is not as nearly enough of what I’ve been doing for him(like putting gas in the car which he uses….and I mean all of it). I’m thinking of letting him go since he can not see what he is doing. He feels control gets him what he wants since in the past he has been used and don’t want a repeat of that. What makes him think I will? I’ve already shown him that I’m here with you not against. But I’m getting tired of the same thing over and over. He has literally taken over everything of mine to the point I cant go somewhere without him hunting me down asking where I am and to come back at this time so he can go out. Well now I have learned all there is and I’m giving to much without much coming back and its killing me. I notice he makes some attempts but fails. I want to know how to approach him. He is of course going to explode at my attempt to correct this like always. One time I threaten to leave him and he got all quiet and begged me to stay though I told him if no better then later. Maybe I stuck around because I see the potential and feel I can make good change.(sigh I guess its not meant to be) I accept him but I don’t really feel like tolerating him and his outrageous behavior. I also think he dose not know how or might just need anger management classes.(sigh I must really be in love with him inside but not out…weird) Its not like he doesn’t mean well but he just have issues, I mean serious ones.