Dear Rachel:

I copied most of your post for myself, so I can read it again in the future- because I agree with what you wrote and you articulated yourself so well, better than I could myself.

Your ex girlfriend choked you, basically, she sucked the air out of your lungs, just like you said she did, and you got physically ill as a result. She choked you physically, without putting her hands around your neck, or her knee over your neck.

Please make sure that she has no more access to you, not in any way. Close the door to her completely and permanently.

“I guess the theme here is learning to be kind: to ourselves and to others no matter who they are”- being kind to your ex girlfriend = not seeking revenge (while in no contact with her, no matter what). That’s as kind as you can be to her, and still heal.

anita