Dear Neverdyed:

“Upon reading your reply, I thought to defend.. my mother”.

Previously you wrote about your mother: “My mother.. picks up fights with me.. she often lashes out and threats… pushes me to talk rather than being silent”- as he attacker/ the aggressor (the one who picks up fights, lashes out, threatens and pushes),  she does not need to be defended by her victim. You (the victim) need to defend yourself from her.

“P.S. I think that my father wasn’t ‘always’ stressed”- no one is always stressed. Every stressed person has to be calm at times. A person can not survive being always stressed.

I suppose living with your mother is a stressful experience for anyone having the misfortune of living with her.

anita