Dear Lily:

You are welcome. Yes, I did take a long time going through and studying your threads, many times; this is why I recommend that you take your time to re-read my posts to you in your various threads, and take as long a time to do so, in the pace you are comfortable with.

“I am just worried that I will fall into thinkin in black and white terms.. The words ‘good person’/ ‘bad person’ worry me”-

– for the purpose of you no longer believing that you are a bad person (“the feeling of being bad”, as you referred to it today), you need to go back to the time when this false core belief was formed/ when it started. It started when you were a young child who really was all good, black-and-white good: no evil intents, no dishonesty, eager to please, etc.

Black and white thinking is often distorted thinking, but not always. In some contexts, black-and-white thinking is accurate, true to reality thinking and without it, we get confused and remain confused, repeatedly doubting everything.

“I am trying to see the world in more complex terms”- some things are simple, better see them as they are: simple.

anita