Dear Anita

Addressing your post

 your suggestion is not helpful (1) because you and X talked a lot privately, one-to-one, and you don’t know if and how he talks to other club members privately, (2) “not so close” it vague, (3) you diverted the topic from your relationship with him to his relationships with other people

Yes I figured, he wouldnt feel comfortable with this idea, I just didnt know what could be a possible workaround for that? since , He wanted to makesure we r not getting too formal , even if our point of discussion just be the club.

apart from that , yes I completely agree with you Anita to whatever you have said.

regarding whther I should stay in contact with a person like that or not.

I just need one last advice here, he has made attempts several times to sort this out, but the two times we had a proper call regarding this, it has ended on a bad note , on both times, me being low key angry and frustrated that why doesnt he git it , how I felt all that time.Was that wrong on my my part? He appeared to be calm and listening to everything the entire time, while I got a bit annoyed , of how clueless could he be??

So , would be better for me if I  indefinetely go in no contact with him now, after the call that ended on a bad note?