* Dear TeaK:

When I reply to an original poster (OP) I may mention another member who replied to the same OP, but only in positive terms, saying that I agree with that member, or that the other member’s reply is insightful, but I never mention another member who replied to the OP  in negative terms, saying that I disagree with that member, or that the member’s reply was wrong, etc. My reasons, based on my years long experience in the forums are that when you disagree with me (or with another member who replies to the OP), it is not necessary that you mention my name in context of the disagreement. You can express your disagreement/ your position without mentioning my name, without mentioning my reply or quoting my words, and without even using the verb “disagree”.

For  example, in this case, you can post to the Ik09 something like this: ”I do not believe that you engage in histrionic behavior’, and expand on that as much as you’d like. When you point to another member who replies as being wrong, it creates a negative feeling in the other member, and it may put the OP in the position of siding with one member against another. Overall, it promotes a negative/ unsafe atmosphere in the forums. We are here to learn and hopefully to help just a little, we are not here to disagree or argue.

Also, it is my personal practice to address only the OP in his/ her thread, and not members who reply. If you want to have a conversation with me, you are welcome to start your own thread, where you will be the OP, and I will be glad to address you there. In my very next post I will address the OP with something that occurred to me as a result of  reading your most recent post.

anita