Dear blue:

You are very welcome. On the topic of virginity and India, I read that the current conservative attitude in India regarding virginity and sex  is to a large extent a result of the huge British presence in colonialized  India during the British Victorian Era, in the 1880s.

A bit of history (Wikipedia): the Victorian Era was named after Queen Victoria who was queen for 63 years, from 1837 to 1901. Her reign was a time of a great expansion of the British Empire, including the colonization of India. In 1876 she was granted the additional title of Empress of India.

During the Victorian Era, in the United Kingdom, the husband was legally in control of all property, earnings and money, and in practice, his wife was his property: Her body was for him to us for children, sex and domestic labor. A wife did not have the right to say No to her husband when he wanted to have sex. Her job was to give herself to her husband as he desired.

Many Victorian women endured their husbands’ control and even cruelty, including sexual violence, verbal abuse, and economic deprivation, with no rights to divorce on these grounds and divorce was considered a social taboo.

Women were expected to be virgins before marriage, if she was not a virgin, she was seen as “ruined” or “fallen”. When married, she was supposed to have sex with only one man, her husband, whenever he wanted. But it was acceptable for men to have multiple partners before and after getting married. The wife had no choice but to endure his affairs because divorce was not an option.

In summary: I understand your concern, “Less of confident due to losing virginity” (the title of your thread), but if you look at the origin of your loss of confidence in regard to losing virginity, you can see that it is rooted not in superior, just, humane values, but in inferior, unjust, inhumane values.

anita