Dear Umm:

Don’t worry about annoying me. I am not likely to get annoyed with you anytime soon: you have my commitment of not getting annoyed with you for at least as long as..  December this year.

“is that impossible to being with someone who has a bad temper?”- It is not impossible. But you pay the price for this possibility: harm to your mental and physical health.

“I always believe in giving people chances”- I know you mean giving him chances to treat you better, but what if you are giving him chances to hurt you more?

“besides from his bad-temper, he is a caring and thoughtful guy. My family likes him very much”- did he lose his temper with your family? If not, their liking of him is based on inadequate evidence.

His caring and thoughtful behaviors- do these behaviors make the times he loses his temper more painful?

“I would love to learn different ways how to deal with someone who has a bad temper”- think of bad temper as being fire, you can figure: if I place my hand in the fire for only a second at a time, it will burn for just a tiny bit, or you can put out the fire and walk away.

anita