Anita,

What you’re saying definitely makes sense. Having an out without being or searching for an out sounds great for me. I already started relationships in general with low expectations a few years ago, and I have been progressively ascending my standards all around. I know what I deserve in  a relationship which conventionally would be a faithful & honest partner but at this point where I’m at I’m not really mad at the circumstances. While I would love more honesty I know I’m not even at a point where I know how to be completely honest with my partner, even apart from the shady activities. I have more mixed feelings about actually being polygamous (if it were a true possible option) than I do about continuing on how I am. I truthfully would rather not openly share K with any other women and he wouldn’t want to share me with anyone else either, that I know of based off previous related conversations K and I have shared. There is something that leads me to believe he has a reason for being somewhat unfaithful to me that I’m a little hesitant to discuss but this is a really good space to do so since I can’t talk to anyone else about it.  I’m so glad I stumbled upon this site last year. You are very easy to communicate with Anita, I appreciate you being so active and responsive in these forums. Hope to hear from you again soon 🙂

D