@Jay2023 check you out with your amazing insight. Thank you so much. You’ve really helped. I couldn’t help but feel is this his way of saying that if we moved in together inevitably it would be a big upheaval because he doesn’t see a future with me?

I don’t know why I feel insecure again, it’s silly really. He sat down and was very open and reassuring. I do understand that we haven’t dated long enough it’s less than a year, so we are still in the honeymoon phase so of course right now we both are still goggly eyed so it’s important to give it time with your partner before jumping in. To get a feel of personality and lifestyle compatibility because cohabiting runs a huge financial and emotional risk. Maybe he is being level headed for the both of us whilst I’m getting all emotional, he is so different to my ex, he is open,  a great communicator and not impulsive. My ex and I just jumped into living together, then developed a dysfunctional co dependency and look where that got me.

Thank you. He’s such a sweetheart, he messaged a short while ago asking if he can still sleep over tonight. I think I’m going to just make him a nice dinner after his shift and show him what he’s missing when he goes home lol. Instead of fretting.

@Jay2023 don’t feel like you can’t address yourself or the previous questions when I need advise in return, I like the balance and its a good distraction to have conversation when my problems arise.  Any plans for your weekend?