Hi Doremi,

Some of the most important lessons we have to learn in life cost us. A lot.

I know it’s hard, but try to look past the loss of money. Again, I know it’s tough, but, you’ll make the money back. You have a good paying job–that’s a blessing!

I think it might be helpful to look deeper, so that you don’t let this kind of thing happen again. You might want to ask yourself how you let this happen. It doesn’t seem like anyone forced you. You chose these men and agreed to give them your money. You did make a choice here. I know that’s hard to hear too, but that’s how we learn to be better!

So what about these men made you trust them? More importantly, how do you evaluate someone’s character? If someone is rich, does that mean they are good? If someone uses flowery language, do you automatically believe them?  Do you have to ask more questions of someone, make someone gain your trust before you invest your time or money in them?  (I think the answer here is YES 🙂 )

These are all really important issues to evaluate, especially since you are looking for a partner. Something in you must have known these guys were full of it – human beings have good instincts. Maybe you just didn’t listen to yourself? I don’t know, only you can answer that. But honestly though, there is a bright side here:  money comes and goes, you can always make it back. But time is far more valuable than money. So at least you didn’t marry one of them, you know? That would be much, much worse.

Take good care of yourself,

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