Hello teak

Thank you I will do that.
What I didn’t explain it was what I was jobless and did nothing to improve. In the head of a woman, it’s a strong sign of immaturity. And she felt no future possible. In last times of the relationship, she said she was worried about our future. And it’s also what she said in her last messages that she doesn’t see any future.

I changed that and I have now perspectives and then a future possible. With or without her. Because without a job even with the best relationship a future is impossible.  I think it’s a big deal when she’ll know that.

Yes I can talk about I would like to have a discussion with her. But I think also without the pression she feels I want to change her mind. And that I come only for that.
When she took her decision, I just said at the moment that I was disappointed because if she would see by herself she could at least make her opinion in person. But she thanked me for respecting her a choice.
It might indeed make a difference when we will meet in person after 1 year and a half and see by herself and being physically present. Because texting or even skype (that we did rarely) is definitively not the same.

I will tell her in advance and of course if she can’t or need time to prepare or think of course I will wait.

I will also respect her choice and boundaries. That’s why it’s also important to stay a bit distant. Not being in the indifference. But also not in demand. We will have discussion but she will also see by herself naturally in her mind. She will have an overall opinion at the end.