Hi Damien,

I will tell her in advance and of course if she can’t or need time to prepare or think of course I will wait.

I think if you plan to travel around the 15th, then today would be high time to tell her.  Don’t postpone it further because 9 days is already quite a short notice.

When she took her decision, I just said at the moment that I was disappointed because if she would see by herself she could at least make her opinion in person. But she thanked me for respecting her a choice.

Right. So she appreciated that you didn’t force her to meet then. If she rejects you again, or tells you she isn’t ready to meet yet, it’s important to respect that decision again.

Yes I can talk about I would like to have a discussion with her. But I think also without the pression she feels I want to change her mind. And that I come only for that.

Yes, you can tell her that you simply want to talk, but also that you have no expectations from her. So you’re not forcing anything. Anyway, inform her as soon as possible that you’re planning to come and see what her reaction will be.