Hi Murtaza,

I do have a place, a fridge, and everything i need for, so what would be the motivation to work?

True, you don’t have the motivation, and I get it that you don’t want to work if you can manage on your father’s allowance, at least for the time being. I just mentioned willingness to work as one example of making an effort for someone you love. But you don’t necessarily need to work to be in a relationship. There are such couples where the woman is working and the guy isn’t. It’s not a sin (maybe it is in Iraq, but not elsewhere). There are even couples who both live on disability. So having a job or not is not the main issue.

What I was rather saying is that it’s unlikely that you can have a loving relationship considering your apathy. And your apathy goes beyond just your unwillingness to work. It’s the belief that life isn’t worth living. You aren’t saying: life here in Iraq isn’t worth living, but you’re saying: “life anywhere on this planet isn’t worth living. I’ve grown up with brainwashed, cruel people who mistreated me, therefore all the people (or most of the people) everywhere must be brainwashed and cruel and will mistreat me. Wherever I go, there is no point in trying because the result will be the same. I will be hurt.”

Would you agree that this is what you’re thinking?