Dear Peace:

I am fine, thank you. I hope the pandemic situation in Germany (and everywhere else) improves very soon! You asked why you doubt the decisions you make. I’ll explain through an example: let’s say that you are now doubting the decision to marry your boyfriend. At this time, your sister is still visiting you, or she recently visited you and left. You wrote that you didn’t tell her about your decision to get married because you weren’t “ready for any drama right now”. This means that you expected her to disapprove of your decision to get married, if she knew.

So, let’s say your sister did not make any comments about your decision to get married, that she didn’t disapprove of it or criticize your decision (because she didn’t know of your decision). But it is possible that you “heard” her disapproval and criticism anyway, imagining her saying that you shouldn’t marry the guy, that it will be a bad decision, etc.,  and as a result: you are disapproving and criticizing your own decision. Can it be what happened most recently?

anita