Dear sossi,

i once again just cant understand why this happens. Why am i dumped on?… I cant understand why she wouldnt want to foster a loving relationship between sisters? between her and us? its sick and i feel, wrong.

ive been literally feeling physically sickened by my life.

Your problem is that you are still hoping that your mother (and father) will change, so you can feel better about yourself and your life. But I am sorry to say – they won’t. They will stay the same –  your mother being the narcissistic person that she is, and your father being her enabler. You don’t have a chance of a better life – if you depend on them changing.

But you do have a chance of a better life if you stop hoping that they would change, and instead, give yourself that what you are hoping to get from them: love, appreciation and validation.

They will never give you what you need, but you can give it to yourself. I think you would benefit a lot from therapy, from having someone give you the understanding and appreciation you never properly received from your parents. You need to heal those childhood emotional wounds, and then you can be free.

What do you think?

• This reply was modified 2 years, 12 months ago by Tee.