Dear Anita, 

My concern and your healing should not about your father: about his childhood, about what he was taught and what he was not taught. Your healing needs to be about you: about your childhood, about what you were taught and not taught.

I understand your concern, Anita. This is my childhood, my life, not his. Because of what he has done to me, I should be more focused on healing myself. You are right. It’s just my concern that if I faced great hardship, I’d be screaming and blaming him for everything because of his actions, and of course, I hope that doesn’t happen to me, because I know how much it hurts my father and me.

Dear TeaK,

If your plan is to do something big that will “change the world”, no wonder you feel overwhelmed by it. Perhaps the first thing would be to evaluate how feasible the plan is, is it just “a pie in the sky”, or it’s feasible but you need to break it down into smaller steps, make an action plan etc…

No, actually it is just a simple things like try to post a video on YouTube. When thinking about I have to use a lot of time to watch tutorials and don’t have special content, then it just stopped me to execute it. I also thought of starting a business, then when I think that I have to use a lot of time to do research, it stopped me again. I guess I’m too weak at take action immediately.