Dear Peace,

he was interested untill i was unavalible and than same pattern again.
thats true i felt too that he was confused ..

Yes, it sounds like an avoidant pattern because he wanted you while you were unavailable, and then when you were free, he never expressed love to you or asked you to get married. In fact, you said that when you broke up with your then-boyfriend and approached him, he started behaving very cold and didn’t even want to talk to you:

he was like a best friend to me and purposed me and I asked for some time to think about it(as I was already messed up in another relationship which he dint know about) ..as I sorted things out and approached he acted like stranger ,totally ignoring me even wasn’t talking to me like a friend..I-was so complete it shock and felt betrayal.

It’s like he got scared of a possibility of a relationship with you, and he became quite unfriendly, as a defense mechanism. Later, when you got into another relationship, he started getting closer again. It seems like he is afraid of an intimate relationship, either with you, or in general, with any woman.

How do you feel about him now? Do you have some regrets about him?