Dear Peace,

..because when i approched him and asked him if he interested now? he said he wants to focus on his study and doesnt want to be involve in anything …

Well, there is your answer about how serious he is/was about you: you asked him openly if he is still interested, he said no (giving his studies as an excuse), although in the past, he told you he wants to marry you and to let him know when you’ll be single again. He played this game of hot and cold more than once: he was cold when you were interested and available, he was hot when you were unavailable. This all shows he didn’t really want to be with you, due to intimacy issues, or attachment issues, or whatever.

i also think what if i made the right decision ,not to give him any chance when he came after 3 months of rejecting me ..

I think you made the right decision, because he has been playing this game of hot-and-cold with you for quite a while, and it’s a very bad sign. As I said, I think that even now, he is still not ready for a serious relationship, but is probably pressured to get married by his family.

i think about him sometimes and how he changed suddenly

His erratic behavior isn’t your fault, so don’t blame yourself. When he had a chance to be with you, he became very unfriendly and started ignoring you. As I said in my previous post, it could have been a defense mechanism because he was scared of getting into a relationship. He might have also been angry at you for rejecting him at first (because you were in another relationship), but if he truly loved you, he would have understood. He actually told you once he would wait for you, so his sudden change in attitude shows how immature he is. He also seems emotionally wounded too. In any case, don’t blame yourself for his strange behavior… it’s not because of you, but because of his issues.

i dont regret because i m with a wonderful person ,he cares for me ,loves me so much that i dont think anyone else could ever treat me like my husband does..he is very supportive ,listens to me when i say something…

That’s wonderful, Peace, I am happy for you. Your husband does seem like a very mature person, who loves you and cares about you a lot. It sounds like you have hit the jackpot with him! 🙂

i dont think so ,if my best friend would ever treated me like my husband does…

Yes, because your husband seems emotionally healthy, unlike your friend, who has some unresolved issues, which would make your relationship (if it ever came to it) much much harder.