This is long so i apologize.

The Weekend of March 19th was going pretty well.  That Friday night I had met up with my best friend , her date, her sister and one other couple at a local winery to watch a local band play.  She had introduced him to all of us.   She had asked me the previous night if it was ok if her date came and if it would bother me if he was there.  I had said not at all because i am currently casually dating someone,  Reason why she had asked me was because a year ago I had talked to him on a dating site, the same one she was on.  I had no idea she had talked to him before that until i had showed her a picture of him.  She told me not to go out with him because he was a player and never follows thru on plans.  I trusted her advice and didn’t proceed on seeing him. Her date and I talked but never met that year .  While at the winery I could tell her date was uncomfortable but I really didn’t care, I was not interested even having a conversation with him cause i did not care for him at all.   But we all had a good time anyways.  Then we all left and I went home to bed.

The following day (saturday):  Everything was good.  My friend said her date stayed at her house for a bit then left to go home cause she had her daughter there and they were going to see each other again.  I was happy for her.   I had told her i had a dinner date with an old colleague of mine in another town and after that I was meeting up with other friends of mine for drinks in a different town.   Then i came home and went to bed.

Sunday:   I woke up to a nasty text from her.  Telling me to never talk to her again, that im not a friend and for me to go fuck myself. I replied asking what happened and i had no clue to what she was talking about.  She replied asking me if i thought she was really that stupid. I replied I have no clue to what she was talking about and i was so confused.  She told me to have fun with her date! I replied what?  She told me not to play dumb and I told her that i did not seriously know what she was talking about and she told me to stop that i knew damn well .  Again i told her I didn’t know what was going on and if she can explain what happened.  She told me she didn’t have to explain anything and told me i was with her date and for me to stop acting dumb. I asked when was I with him and she said seriously? I said I seriously don’t know  and she said whatever and she was done.   I told her I had never met him until that friday when she introduced him to all of us and that I was telling the truth about me not being with him and that there is some confusion and i told her I was not even in the area that night and i came home and went to sleep. I told her I never even met that dude ever!  She said I was with him last night!  Which doesn’t seem possible and she said bullshit!  I told her again I was not with him and im not lying. She then explained to me it was kind of odd that he was only 4 miles away that night…guess where you are at (meaning me)..4 miles away.  He told her that night he didn’t want to see her anymore.  I asked her why would he say that. And again i explained to her where i was and but she didn’t want to hear it and there was no way in hell was i with that dude.  I don’t even know his last name, his number or where he is from because i had deleted all that info a long time ago!   She said it was late that night and for me to stop bullshitting.   I asked her why is she accusing me of something i didn’t even do!  Apparently he told her that friday was the first time he was around our area and now he was just up in our area that saturday night again..local. I asked what did that had to do with me and her reply was…umm your 4 miles from her and im the only one that is local like that and for me to stop lying.  I said im not lying and why is she assuming.  I told her there are other girls that live in our area that he was probably meeting, and omg I forgot…I am the only one in the area that is a girl ….I told her…!!!     She didn’t like that response.   Reason why she is blaming me and assuming is because long time ago the guy she was trying to date was at the same bar as us.  He sat next to me and her.  While she was at the bar getting drinks he was trying to flirt with me and touched my hair as she was coming back to the table.  I had pushed his hand away and told him to stop it!  She took it all the wrong way and we didn’t talk for a while after that cause she thought i wanted him which was not true because I do not flirt with my friends boyfriends/husbands . So now she just assumes everytime something like this happens its easier to blame me and accuse me instead of getting facts straight and having proof.

She has now blocked me on everything.  She has yet to apologize to me for her behavior.   She is insecure and a drama queen and lives off it.  A real friend would have approached it differently.   She is no longer my friend over something that was handled like an immature high school girl.

Then my brother called me that sunday.  He told me he didn’t blame her for her acting that way because of what happened in the past.  I said the past is the past. Let it go and why keep brining it up.   I was literally screaming and crying at him.  I said i feel betrayed for being falsely accused of something i wasn’t even apart of!  He basically called me a lying fucking whore because I go on dates occasionally and he thinks i sleep with everyone which is not true.. I told him I refuse to apologize for something I did not do at all!  I then hung up on him.   He then texts me later that day telling me I don’t have to apologize if i didn’t do anything.  And I didn’t have to call everyone (I called my Aunt whom I am very close with and my mom) and for it to just let it all cool down.  Told me to get my head on straight.  I laughed at that because I am the one that caused all of this. He also told me maybe if I talk to him and his wife more and after all she is my sister n law and how I dont’ talk to them about anything.  Which I don’t .   I told him it was easier to talk to her sister since she was single cause she understood the dating scene.    I replied to him: “I am not apologizing for shit when I did nothing wrong.  Her date could have been meeting someone else in the area.  Cause you know….There are other girls that do live in our area. But of course its just put the blame on me since I am the only girl that does live in this 4 mile radius!  I wasn’t even in the area that night!  Again it is just easier to just assume and play the blame game. So yeah I am done telling people my business because after all….I am a lying “f******* whore according to you and god knows who else….and how would you feel or they feel if everyone just assumed and got blamed for something you did not do???  so as of now , I do not want to be bothered for awhile.  So until I get an apology, I do not want to be bothered for awhile!”    His reply was he told me I never had to apologize and that they weren’t saying I did anything wrong!  And yes her sister probably did over react, but can’t blame her for what happened in the past between her and I.   And they guess the way she looked at it seemed odd to her and that he told her he didn’t know anyone in the area or around our place.  And he told me he didn’t blame her for acting that way and he is sure I would have probably acted the same way if I was her.  ( ummm….no because I would have handled it differently).  He proceeded to tell me that some tracking thing on her phone showed him to be in our area around 3 or 4 that morning.  I was asleep at that time…..!!!    And my brother proceeded to say he told his wife and her sister who knows his location maybe changed or messed up and they didn’t know. Like who the hell cares!

I then replied to him telling him that the past is the past and they all need to get the hell over it.  Leave it in the past!  I told him its so childish and petty.  I told him that stuff is for high school and for them to all grow the hell up.  I told him quite frankly, I did not give a crap who was in the area and what time!  Especially when I had nothing to do with any of it over reacting or not!!!   I said i did not appreciate getting accused!  I told him everyone needs to worry about what they are doing and not worry about what i am doing and for them to grow up and how I am sick of the petty crap drama over what???  I told him I am done with it all and I dont’ want to be bothered by it anymore.   I told him everyone needs to get over it and stop automatically accusing me of stuff until they have the facts and proof and I have every right to be angry.  I told him if I get wrongly accused again I will shut everyone off!  He told me that his wife’s sister and I need to talk it over!  I laughed and told him how she immaturely blocked me on everything!    I told him its a shame that he didn’t even stick up for me his own sister and how he was sticking up for his sister n law.   I told him if she wants to talk she needs to reach out to me…odd or not….shouldn’t be accusing or assuming.  Told him how i am tired of all the back stabbing, petty drama and that I have my own stuff to deal with and I told him I meant what I said about not telling my family or close friends my business unless its someone i trust.

I am until this day still angry over it and she still has not reached out to me.  I still have not talked to my brother or his wife cause I am sure they still are on her side including their side cause I was pretty close to them all.

I guess I just need some advice on how to deal with this type of situation or if anyone out there has been through this .  What upsets me more is that my own brother turned his back on me and basically is sticking up for his sister n law!!!!!! My mom knows the whole story and she is pretty mad about it too!