Dear RO:

You are welcome. ”

“The only thing I meant by ‘you recommended’ was to talk to someone, not to take any medications, I’m sorry that I was not clear)“- not a problem, I just had to clarify.

“When I think about other people questioning their sexuality.. I refer to them having or not having fantasies about their own gender… my fantasies are mostly about being with big breasted woman“- if you are a small breasted woman, your attraction to big breasts may be nothing more than about wishing and desiring that you had big breasts too.

“how can I be sure in my sexuality? how can I be sure that I’m not in denial? how can I date men thinking I may be in denial?… how can I be sure that I’m attracted to men and not women, and not doubt myself every time?“-  regular questions can be answered, but obsessive questioning is never satisfied with answers, not for long. At best, you feel better temporarily after receiving an answer, but not long after, the questioning awakens anew.

“I was not diagnosed with OCD… I did read about it all – OCD , HOCD trying to figure out if it’s just intrusive thoughts or really my real sexuality… it takes so much energy. so much thoughts “-I recommend that you see a doctor and ask to be evaluated. If you receive a professional diagnosis, a plan of treatment can be made to treat what is so distressing to you. Can you make an appointment to be evaluated?

anita