Dear Eric:

“Do u think relationships could disrupt my friendship with my friends?“- not more than your obsessive thinking has been disrupting so much of your life. It’s the excessive anxiety and obsessive thinking that’s The Problem.

“Friday-Sunday I (will go) out of country for an event… one of my friends… wants to visit my city on Thursday… I’m really pissed off because why does he have to come to my city. Now I have to meet him and end up not having a date with that girl… If I don’t date with that girl on Thursday next week, that means I won’t be meeting her at all next week“- you are pissed at your friend for no valid reason: it is not like he knows that you plan on having a date on Thursday night and he purposefully wants to interrupt your plan.

Here is a possible solution: you can ask her for a date on Thursday, and if she says Yes, you can either (1) ask her if she would like to join you for dinner with your uni friend (only if you are comfortable with the idea!),  or  (2) you can tell your friend that you will be busy on a date on that Thursday night and therefore you will not be able to see him. You can tell him that you are looking forward to have dinner with him on another night, sometime later.

anita