Anita

Yes it was his female friend and my husband greeting guests outside before the wedding dinner.   It is custom for the bride and groom to greet the guests, not her.   I was not made aware until that very moment.  And yes it was crude and rude behavior on both of their parts.  If I would not have said anything , it would have continued.   Til this day it bothers me and  I am trying so hard to get past it.   I told him she didn’t respect our boundaries.  There are boundaries and when someone over steps them like she did, then  yes…..I had every right to lash out at her in front of his friends.   I might add, the look on their faces was priceless lol.

He values his friends.  Which I have no problem with because they are all male.   And I have met them all including their wives and girl friends, and their children.   He does not like to keep secrets, but I feel by him changing his passcode and an odd number and a text popped up which i tried to translate via google.  He can tell I am not myself lately because  of what i saw.

When he got his new phone , he failed to delete all his old ex’s.   So thats why i took it upon myself to do that without him knowing.

We do have a language barrier issue.  Sometimes he doesn’t understand what Im trying to tell him or vice versa.   He is very big on family.  Family is the most important thing in his life  along with his friends.     I know We dont’ talk enough.  When he asks me if Im ok.  I lie and tell him Im ok or Im good even when Im not.

Do I casually ask what that number was and who it belongs to?  Because when i get texts or if my phone rings he wants to know who it is and what they said.   Fair is fair.  Am I right or wrong?