Dear Tee,
Hope you’re doing better

Last time I forgot to congratulate you on you applying for a management position – how did it go? Did you get it?

I’m still on the last interview stage. So let’ see.
These days I’m feeling little burned out, yet I still have to prepare for interview and everything because this is good opportunity.

Okay, so be aware that you have this false belief “if I show vulnerability, I’ll be attacked.” And change it to some positive statement about vulnerability, e.g. “showing vulnerability is key for a loving relationship”.

Yes right but like you said around right people.

So the solution would be that when you feel your girlfriend is doing something that hurts you – to tell her, instead of resenting her for not figuring it out on her own. Once you tell her, you’ll see how she reacts and whether she can understand and empathize with you…

You see it’s not that easy for me because I’d feel like she’s judging for wrong reasons and not actually understanding me and if I explain her in details it could just make things more uncomfortable.

By the way, I haven’t asked you about your date which was supposed to happen last weekend, right? (around 10 days ago) How did it go, if you don’t mind me asking?

Like I told you before I don’t like the current dating scenario. There is just too much going on and feels like too much work for me. And I don’t want my emotional energy drain that way. I want to be straight-forward about it. But it doesn’t work that way I don’t know

So about the date, It was really good we actually spent more time together than we decided. Had a good coffee and went the near science museum. She was really talkative (Like I noticed before) But tbh I liked her energy and I was comfortable around her. Heck even I was talkative. She’s simple girl and avid reader and into romance novels a lot. She’s also outgoing which is good too.

Now the “dating scenario” so even though next morning she texted me “ I had an amazing time together, we should do this again” and I said yeah me too. After that day I texted her but she was doing like one sentence answers. So I told her good night and slept. And I was talking to my friend and she was like I have to play it cool and don’t seem needy. I mean just texting is needy? I don’t even wanna text anymore if she doesn’t want…so how’s that needy? Another day she texted but it was my turn to “play it cool” and not give her much attention and replying late so yeah it’s still going on like that.. 😂

Another question how much do you aware of the word “situationship”?

Also, Few Days ago I read an article about slow living, Are you practicing any kind of things related to that?