Dear Sarika:

About your father: “He.. eroded my self-confidence through constant insults and humiliation… manage my money… all while maintaining a demeaning tone he had used since I was ten years old… controlling behavior and constant belittlement”

About your new family: “a difficult mother-in-law and three overbearing sisters-in-law…  individuals similar to my father…  my mother-in-law has mirrored his behavior. Furthermore, my husband is unwilling to support me financially in matters related to IVF”

“I am now in need of a fresh perspective and guidance on how to navigate these challenges”-

– I can’t think of any other perspective than to set yourself FREE from all of then: to no longer pursue IVF, to take control over your money and move out of your marital home; to have no contact with your father or with the individuals in your new family.

I am using the word family loosely here: family is supposed to be a place of safety, support.. a place of love. If you leave your family, you leave behind not love, but subjugation.

“Don’t know what to do” is the title of your thread. Is leaving them all possible for you, is it practically possible and is it something that you want to do?

anita