Dear Blazkowich:

It is common to inaccurately project one’s parent into a romantic partner. I suppose you reminded her of her father in some way (could be something as simple as the sound of your voice, or your use of a certain word that he often uses), and that was enough for her to project her father’s aggression into you.

You shared before that you didn’t push your efforts to help her, that you gave her all the space that she needed, that you were gentle, kind and patient with her… so, no aggression on your part, right?

anita