Dear Caroline:

“I can’t not beat myself up. I made a huge mistake“- being beaten up, you are more likely to make more mistakes, not less. If you want to make fewer mistakes, don’t beat yourself up and have empathy toward yourself instead.

“I do not have a life during a week. I only have work and sleep… I ruined my own life“- don’t ruin your life further by .. beating yourself up. I know how strong the impulse to .. be mean to yourself, but it’s a destructive impulse.

“All I do everyday is sit in my room in front of my computer. I am too tired in the morning and then I can’t leave till 10pm. I do not feel good“- this has to change, sitting in your room all day. Either you find a way to get out somehow, every day, or quit the job ASAP.

How about a few days break from the job for the rest of this week + weekend?

anita