Dear Anita,

” the above reads like a description of your sisters, doesn’t it?”

1.”You can do no right, while they can do no wrong”

“Toxic siblings will do anything they can to take advantage of you…hey might even tell other family members about your weaknesses so that they can take advantage of you, too… and will guilt-trip you into getting what they want…”

This is true i guess . When I used to help them  or anyone , by spending money and doing favors or i was nice to them, they called me a “fool.” They thought I was stupid immature,without a brain (specially my eldest sis). But when I stood up for myself and refused to let them control me about my husband, they called me “selfish.” I don’t know what else they said about me behind my back. So, no matter what I do, they think I’m bad. It’s like I’m always in the wrong.

2.”A toxic sibling never apologizes, no matter what they did or how much it hurt you”

Neither of them said sorry, even when they hurt me. They acted like nothing happened. They thought it was normal to treat me, my husband, and his family badly. They expected me to still treat them well. When I couldn’t, they got mad again. After I got married, my siblings were okay with me at first. They even called me when I was in the hospital. But after a while, they got upset. And when I told them my husband bought us a new apartment in Germany, they got even more distance or i felt they stopped even liking or commenting on  my statuses. no one liked my wedding photo when i put that on my status but i saw my siblings wishing well and happiness to  a random person on his wedding .it hit me hard but was funny too.

3.”Constructive criticism coming from a place of love is one thing, but a sign your sister is jealous of you could be that she intentionally makes you feel bad about yourself, instead of dealing with her own feelings…”

No matter what you do, you’ll be criticized, judged, or called names. If you’re kind, you’re seen as foolish. If you set boundaries, you’re labeled as selfish. It seems like no matter how good your intentions are, there’s always something people will find fault with. And it’s not just me; it’s the same for everyone, including other family members.