Dear Paradoxy:

You ended your last post addressed to me with (I am adding the boldface feature): “It is too late to be Godwin-the-child, I have a med degree to finish and I am too old to be behaving like a child… I do not have the time nor energy to share to Godwin-the-child. I do have a lot to grow Anita and I will. Eventually I will get past this. Paradoxy.“-

The following is my understanding. I am speaking only for myself, not for other responders, and my intent is to be of some help to you, if you allow it:

You can’t get past this unless you get through it, and you can’t get through it if you continue to ask questions and then, before you consider the answers you receive, you argue against them. It’s like this: you know (you think you know) the answers, but you ask the questions just so to have the opportunity to argue with the person responding to you.

And the content of your arguments is full with paradoxes: contradictory statements and inconsistent logic. When a responder points to a specific inconsistency, you respond with more inconsistencies.

“It is too late to be Godwin-the-child, I have a med degree to finish and I am too old to be behaving like a child… I do not have the time nor energy to share to Godwin-the-child. I do have a lot to grow Anita and I will. Eventually I will get past this. Paradoxy.”- yes, I agree:  you are too old to be eating with a bib around your neck, too old to  throw a tantrum in the market because they ran out of ice-cream. I don’t recommend behaving in such ways.

“It is too late to be Godwin-the-child, I have a med degree to finish and I am too old to be behaving like a child… I do not have the time nor energy to share to Godwin-the-child. I do have a lot to grow Anita and I will. Eventually I will get past this. Paradoxy.”-

– You will not get past this for as long as you treat Godwin-the-child rudely and cruelly. Goldwin-the-adult has the self-discipline to prevent Goldwin-the-child from throwing a tantrum in the market, but you can not silence him otherwise. Seems like you think that you can leave him behind and move on without him, and experience some semblance of mental health, but.. it’s not possible, not at 19, not at 29, not at 79.

You have turned against yourself, trying to cut off a part of you, a part that you need. Don’t hate this part of you, love him instead, and you’ll be greatly rewarded for it.

What I expressed in the above two paragraphs is the truth, it’s how it is, unarguably. About arguing, it’s not good for my mental health to argue, especially again and again, on and on, it makes me anxious… so I won’t. I will close with a few quotes (Goodreads) about arguing, quotes with which I agree (regardless of who said them), and which I believe to be very relevant to your thread:

“It is not necessary to understand things in order to argue about them.” ― Pierre Beaumarchais

“We almost never teach or learn when arguing.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument— and that is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes.” ― Dale Carnegie.

“If you want to bring the world closer to peace, be a peacemaker by creating peace whenever you can. If you find yourself engaged in an argument that only stirs anger in the heart, quickly make peace and carry on.”- Suzy Kassem

I am making peace and carrying on..

anita