Dear Tee,

“So in their June 4 conversation, he told her he would have wanted to get to know her (like from the moment he met her), if you weren’t his friend? If so, at least he respected the fact that you are his friend. But really, if he was attracted to her, what should have he done? Certainly not admit it to you, since that would have been even worse for everyone.” Yes he told her that if I was not his friend, he would have wanted to get to know her. Sure u could say he respected me. But at the same time, I’ve known this dude for years. This dude is casually sleeping with multiple women, and I have a feeling he only sees B as a sexually object too. Idk. But if he was attracted to her, he should not have made a move at all (especially after telling him what kind of person she is) cause how can he come tell me that I deserve better and she is not the right person and all that stuff but the next moment he is showing interest in her? He should not have been trying to screw us up from behind my back in the first place. If he wanted to make a move, he should have expressed his interest after B and I had settled everything since our break up, instead of trying to push us toward the break up. He can’t be saying B is cruel and narcissistic and etc and then the next day you find him dating her. Now I can’t trust him if I were to have another gf in the future.

“Still, you can’t forbid him to be attracted to her, and now even to make a move.” Yes I get that, but at least wait for us to settle things between her so I can stop caring completely, because he knows that she owes me money, and he couldn’t wait? I would understand maintaining friendship with her but making an actual move on her???? Of course it will leave a bad taste in my mouth with the way he went about it.

“Well, she already went behind his back and told you about it – which he asked her not to. And they’ve communicated in the past too, it’s not like this was their first conversation. So there might have been an exchange between them, which you’re not aware of. And she seems like a girl who is flirty in general, so why wouldn’t she be with him too.” Maybe, but its not enough to call him a victim, because he still knowingly hammered the wedge that was already placed between us and then he made a move behind my back.

“In any case, I think she could hardly wait to tell this to you, and to start pitting you and your friend against each other.” Eh, she told me to not do anything about it or confront him about it… so how is she pitting us against each other?

“So if she told him her version of the story (filled with lies), he might have started seeing her in a different light, and trusting her, and seeing her as a victim… So who knows what preceded that message of his, where he started hitting on her.” Could be. But the screenshots indicated that he texted her first regarding her modeling, and then proceeded to make the move. Besides she was constantly blocking and unblocking him anyway since we were fighting so often. But like I said, you could be right. But to be dumb enough to trust a girl who u have known for 2 years but barely interacted with, over a guy who has been with u for 4+ years and you literally live together and do everything together is just insane.

“Unless you talk to your friend… and find out what he has to say, rather than trusting her (a proven liar) on her word.” He could lie too. What then? Its not like he would show me his chat.

“It’s not like she is trying hard to save up, so she can repay you. On the contrary, she is spending on herself, e.g. now she has enrolled a trading class. BTW is it to become a broker?” Yeah she doesn’t know how to save money, which is why I am becoming increasingly annoyed cause there is nothing I can actually do to force her to save money. Can’t even call the cops because her roommate is a cop and she is also one of the worst cheaters u could find. And yes she is trying to become a broker to make more money.

“Good luck with that, Paradoxy. Because the chance is 0%. Zero. Nada. Your attempts are futile. It’s like going to the snake and expecting not to be bitten.”
😂😂Lol ig u r right.

“But still, going for more, trying to convince her that you are a good person after all, hoping that she would see it, hoping that she would change….” Thats the thing, I am not going for more. She is coming to me. And I have no choice but to take it cause each call could be a call to say that she has my money ready. I am aware of the foolishness that is going on, but its not like I can block her. I have to just sit here and let her hit my pride and ego and everything and tank it as much as I can. And yeah she is trying to lure me back into a relationship too, but it ain’t working.

Paradoxy