Dear Tee,

Assuming u r right about the situation, do u think I should waste my time confronting him, especially knowing he could lie about the situation? Isn’t the best course of action to just be on my guard and trust no one?

“And are you sorry?” No I never cheated on her. I am saying that the first time, he told her that I could be cheating, when I was actually just sleeping but that made her break up with me. But after that, recently when B was talking to him again after reading our conversation, he told her that I was interested in someone, when I actually wasn’t, and she assumed that I was interested in that person for months and she assumed that I was breaking up with her because I was cheating when I actually wasn’t. She thought I was just pinning to blame on her to break up with her so that I could be with someone else. But none of that was true. I was never interested in anyone else. But the false information that he fed to her led to this conclusion.

“But what about all the other breakups that you initiated because of her bad behavior? Because of her lying about her ex? Because of her wearing revealing outfits and posting it on social media in spite of promising not to? Because of her prostituting herself?” I know all that, but she thinks that these are just my excuses to pin the blame on her because she thinks I was cheating on her.

“All that didn’t endanger your relationship, but that one occasion where she asked your friend if you were cheating (so she came up with the paranoid thought first), then he decided not to dissuade her – that’s what endangered your relationship?” No the relationship was already endangered by then, but I am trying to get a peaceful resolution and this dude is feeding her with unnecessary things behind my back???? I am trying to get my money and move on and this dude is creating reasons for her to continue fighting with me?

“And your friendship is not already ruined? “ No really, cause I am not dumb enough to just blindly believe what B showed me. I am just going to keep my guard up until the guy does something stupid again.

“Oh so you even have to take her to the ATM? She doesn’t have online banking, so she doesn’t know how much money she has?” Apparently she can’t access the website? And she wanted to deposit some money into her account so she needed to go to the atm for that. And it was in the night and the place we live can get dangerous at night.

“And then once you get to the ATM and she sees her account is almost empty, she sheepishly says “oops, nothing there. Can’t give you back today, sorry”. And that’s it? You’re buying it?” Yes I saw her account balance and it was roughly 60$. What else am I supposed to do other than wait patiently until next month? She promised to pay then. I can’t let go of this money.

“Well actually, she’s making a fool put of you. First, she would know how much roughly she has. I mean, she should know it – before she calls you. The fact that she is dragging you to the ATM and then acts surprised that she doesn’t have the money, and basically stands you up and you go back empty handed, is beyond humiliating.” I saw it coming from a mile away but I needed to hold on to that 1% hope. Besides I can’t have her death on my conscience if something did happen since she was leaving in the middle of the night. This woman is now asking if I could buy her an 80$ perfume as “a gift” for her. This woman is craaaaaazzzzyyyyy I swear. The audacity is insaneeeeeee.

“Acceptance to be treated like a clown?” No acceptance as in controlling my emotions and not allowing her to trigger me.

I didn’t want to be cold to her, but I think that is my only choice right now. I am not letting her fool me anymore.

Paradoxy