To make a long story short, my husband of 10+ years left me for another woman. Right before this happened I found out that he had multiple affairs throughout the years with other woman (at least 5 that I know of). Some of those lasted for 2 years.
At the beginning of your marriage I cheated on him but he forgave and stayed together. After I did this, I continuously showed him that it was a big mistake and never gave him a reason to doubt me again. I have been faithful to him all these years.
Now he says that he needs to start again because we have done too much to each other and that he needs to start fresh with a new person. He claims that he is doing this because he needs to be the man he was supposed to be (not lying and cheating) and that he can to this with this woman.
I have tried to stay away from him and not communicate with him but he is making a little difficult for me because he continues to try to communicate with me because he wants to remain friends. He tells me that he loves me and that he is sorry that he is giving this other woman what I always wanted.
Even though he says that he will not cheat, the last time I saw him he wanted to be intimate with me. I was thinking that if he really was a changed man than he would not want to do this. Even though I had promised myself that I was not going to do it, I ended up falling for it and ended up having sex with him. Now, he has been clear with me that it is over between us.
I know that I shouldn’t do this but I love him and I guess this gives me some false hope. I don’t’ know what to do and how to just say no and value myself. Now I’m feeling like I’m “the other woman”
Please if you have been in this situation, give me some advice or even if you haven’t I just need to get out of this mess and I don’t know how to. I need to value myself more and have some self respect. I say it but I can seem to be able to execute it.