Hello all,

I am coming with updates on my initial post: https://tinybuddha.com/topic/friendship-gone-wrong/

I evolved…set firm boundaries and found out that i really don’t want this friendship anymore as it was draining me. It was not an easy conclusion , even when my body knew long before me.

It’s hard to let this “rescuer people pleaser everyone else feelings matter most” role. I still feel gulty that he suffers because this relationship is now almost gone…we barely talk.

Also, from his side, he “closed” the doors even if i tried to maintain a small relantion of acquintances at least
I understand him but at the same time it raised me the question: was I that important in the end or my role or listener/pillow that now is gone was the main atraction?

I am finding out now how to let go myaelf of the resentments and the waves of guilt.

Thank you!