For what it’s worth, regarding the ex husband, it’s all about control. If you’re happy, he can’t stand that. From what I’ve seen, it can get worse before it gets better, BUT ~ 9/10 times the fathers will suddenly “give up” once they get a new girlfriend or when the children hit middle school.

Judges don’t look too fondly on dads who neglect child support. Don’t worry. They see this sort of thing every day. Every. Day. Even if they do award joint custody (HA), they will do it with the kids living with him on weekends and holidays. They try really hard to keep the kids in a normal lifestyle.

Ex Boyfriend ~ don’t talk to him at all. It’s too much right now.

Kids ~ they are only getting older and will get more and more helpful and need you less and less for certain things. Praise them for everything they do well and whenever their behavior is good. Think of all the money you’ll save too!

Good Luck!!