Hello Kelly,

I went through my own betrayal this year and I am still working through my own journey. I learned that my ex has “gaslighted” (which is a interesting topic) me into doubting my own instincts as well. I have learned to forgive by first removing myself from his influence and focusing on learning to hear my own inner voice. I went to school, connected with old friends, allowed myself the permission to cry, and be sad. Then I realized that we have only so much time on this world and I wanted to focus on the love I was receiving from others instead of the love I was being declined.

Another shift for me was learning to trust my gut when working with others and that action is a better indictor of character then words. I will never know what part of the relationship was real and which was an act but that is on him. How someone treats you is an indictor of their character not your value.

Please be gentle with yourself and give yourself more time to process all this information. One thing that helped me was to change your ex’s name on your phone to “teacher” because he had taught me alot about what I wanted and needed to be happy.