Hi Sandy,

A third point of view comes to mind: adapting. You can make plans and strive for what you want, but you need to be able to adapt to the changing currents. Not exactly the same as going with the flow as you described it, but close. Think of a surfer surfing the waves or a person sailing a dinghy: he has a plan and the skills, but the environment is constantly changing. He can not rigidly execute a plan, but has to constantly adapt to the environment. It would be stressful, if the person didn’t accept the changes that happen, but he knows that things will never go exactly according to plan, and that is part of the fun!

Life never goes according to plans either and it doesn’t have to be stressful if you accept that fact.