I need some help please. I am beating myself up over a man that used me. I was so blinded by his “love” that it was like a drug. I let him move into my home when he could not pay his rent because he started a new business. He supported me for a few months through my dad’s stroke and my mom’s chronic illness, but he also wanted me to change a lot of things. Get rid of some of my pets. Put my mom in long term care. Grow my hair. I needed to force my ex to sign the divorce settlement and get his stuff out of my house. The house was never to his liking but he barely lifted a finger. But despite all I had going on he “loved” me and I was grateful. I tried and tried and gave and gave and thought I was making progress and it was all ok. A week ago he changed his FB picture and I noticed he had also changed his relationship status to ask me. After a day of avoiding my questions he finally (and very nastily) said that he wanted to move out. It turns out he had been looking for a place without speaking to me. I threw him out. Now he is camping at night near his business. I feel tremendous guilt and stupidity. I feel bad that my 16 year old son was exposed to this person (although he always treated me well aside from no housework in front of my son and family) and I feel horribly guilty for all the time I spent with him that I could have been spending with my son. I feel stupid and desperate for not having picked up sooner on what this man really was. Does anyone please have any words of wisdom on how to forgive myself and move on?