Thanks Jane

Hey Little Buddha

Lets flip the question around to positive emotions. Do you tell yourself to not feel the positive emotions either ? Positive emotions are also because of desires. Desires that have been fulfilled. Is that suffering too in your definition ? Logic has no end.

I am not sure about how others deal with their negative emotions but I deal with them head on nowadays as I am more wise now 🙂 Negative emotions arise when our wants have not been fulfilled or when something has not gone the way we wanted it to, yeah ?

Few years ago, my subconscious brain latched on to a phrase I read somewhere, “every incident, relationship, issue, people etc are here for a reason in my life and they are trying to teach me a lesson so that I can become the better version of whom I am and get closer to where I need to be. It is all happening for my highest good”. Since then, emotions have become easier to deal with – both positive and negative. Mind doesn’t get as disturbed as it used to.

I look for the lesson. If I find it, great. I move on and incorporate the lesson into my life. If I cant find the lesson, I let the issue go to junk folder of my subconscious brain and press the mental delete button. All this takes practice. No running away. Sitting down and having a ME chat in nature somewhere is how I tackle this process.

Meditation daily has been another tool that has worked well for me – it is the ultimate charger and gets rid of negativity in seconds. I am also more aware of my triggers such as stress, lack of sleep, lack of food, lack of exercise etc. So I take a pro-active approach most days in MANAGING MYSELF and do not let stress build up in subtle forms.

Lastly, I make it a conscious effort nowadays to accept everyone as they are WITHOUT any questions asked (sometimes, I slip but most days are good). If someone is being a dick, good for him and if someone is being an angel, good for her. I am ME and I practice being ME in all circumstances. This has taken the longest to practice. I used to be quite a critical and judgmental person and I think it stemmed from being a perfectionist in my own mind. So if someone didn’t match up to my standards, I would pass judgments left, right and centre. Since I have let go of the need to be a judge, life has been soooooo awesome that I cant explain to you. Everyone is awesome 🙂 Sometimes, people need that reminder in a gentle manner and sometimes kick-in-the-pants style LOL.

Hope this helps Little Buddha. Keep shining your bright light mate. YOU ARE AWESOMEEEEEEEE

J