I’ve been following this thread with some interest. It seems to be a triggering topic.

I have to say that I really loved Helen’s advice and point of view. You can’t control who you like, and I somehow don’t see anything wrong with feeling affection towards someone. People come and go in and out of your life and we feel something towards them. I derive pleasure from feeling affection towards someone, regardless of who they are. It doesn’t mean that I want to possess them or have them. I just enjoy their presence, that’s all. Perhaps if it’s seen as this fleeting moment in life, it doesn’t become an obsession or anything more than what it is. Controlling and denying makes it a bigger deal than what it is. In my humble opinion.